How can these sites help you find romance, and what pitfalls should you be aware of?Pros: Access to more people and more types of people.Once stigmatized as a venue for the desperate, online dating has become a normal part of the mating game.A recent survey of 19,000 people who married between 20 found that 35 percent of these new couples met online, with about half of those meeting through an online dating site (Cacioppo et al., 2013).Finkel and associates (2012) put together an extremely comprehensive review of the literature investigating various aspects of online dating.The goal of their review was to evaluate whether online dating was 1) fundamentally different from face-to-face dating and 2) was superior.
Love, love, love -- all the wretched cant of it, masking egotism, lust, masochism, fantasy under a mythology of sentimental postures, a welter of self-induced miseries and joys, blinding and masking the essential personalities in the frozen gestures of courtship, in the kissing and the dating and the desire, the compliments and the quarrels which vivify its barrenness.The most obvious benefit of these websites is that they provide easy access to thousands of potential dates.This can be especially beneficial for people who don’t have a large social circle.And even though men generally contact women more than vice versa on these sites, research has shown that a sizable minority of women do reach out to men they find desirable online, suggesting that these sites allow some women to overcome traditional gender norms that cast them in a passive role of waiting to be approached (Scharlott & Christ, 1995). Shy or socially anxious individuals often have difficulty forming and maintaining close relationships (Alden & Taylor, 2004; Davila & Beck, 2002). "To err is human, but to really foul things up you need a computer." Paul Ehrlich.