I have also not cleaned up my hair since so I had the 70’s porn star look going on.I’m sitting in my room by myself and then my computer starts ringing with the video chat.When I talk to my wife over the Internet (audio and visual), I sometimes ask her to show me part of her body, and this causes intense sexual provocation which I cannot resist, so I masturbate with my hand to ward off this desire. It is permissible for a man to find pleasure in speaking to his wife and looking at her or at her picture in a chat program, so long as he takes precautions so that no one else can see or spy on him.Does this come under the heading of the verse “Except from their wives” [al-Mu’minoon 23:6] or of enjoying one’s wife? With regard to masturbation with the hand, the general principle is that it is haraam, except in the case of one who fears that he may fall into zina, in which case it is permitted.Many of them believe cybersex to be similar to pornography—an extension of fantasy that actually helps to keep them from physical affairs with other people.Consider the following statement from a 41-year-old married man (all citations are from to cheat—something that may even add spice to their offline relationship.
Questioner: And without using the hand there is nothing wrong with it?
I answer and me and my beautiful wife talk about the day and what she is going to do for the day.
She tells me she needs to vacuum and turns the computer so I can watch.
If you talked to me, I might look like I was listening, but in my head I was thinking, “OK, OK, get to the point, buddy. If your body needs that release and you’re not providing it, nature has a way of taking care of it for you. I’m more focused, less high-strung, more attentive to my wife, and the periodic wet dreams are more exciting and less shame-inducing than they were in my youth.
I have a computer full of sweet JPGs and MPGs waiting for me at home, and they’re not going to jerk off to themselves.” Once I stopped whacking, that was one less thing taking me out of the moment. RELATED: 10 Things You Didn’t Know About Your Orgasms I know I could not have done this if I weren’t in a committed relationship.