In fact, you can think about the future details of all this so much, you can build unhelpful expectations in your mind that hinder the practical side of meeting, dating and marrying the one God has for you.If you are ready to be more intentional in your search, here are seven common unhelpful expectations that could be poisoning your chances at meeting your future spouse. In theory, Christians typically fall into one of two categories: either “I grew up in a Christian home” or “I became a Christian later in life” category.People want the good life, a blessed life, yet they rarely plan and prepare for making the decisions and choices that create a life God can bless!
In assessing my situation in recent years, I’ve had to own up to a lot of foolishness in my dating history.But if you only consider men and women who are “older Christians” or “younger Christians,” you are drastically limiting your options.You’d recognize that familiar “I met someone” starry-eyed glow anywhere. He gets along so well with my family, and he respects me.4:3-6To get what we want, we just need to do what God wants. Check out Part 2 of this dating guide to find out exactly how you can achieve this level of sexual integrity in today’s dating culture. I repressed my desire for dating and relationships with the opposite sex and decided that courtship was the “holier” course of action for my life. But my immature mentality left no room for error, so I ended up staying in the relationship far longer than I should have—which caused heartbreak and a whole lot of wasted time. The Church has often created a “fear culture” around the topic of dating—putting so much pressure on singles to find the “right person.” On the other hand, the culture at large defines dating as this feel-good, romantic, emotionally-driven, sexual experience.